Retrospectives are not just about making you feel bad for missing your commitments, pointing fingers at your colleagues, and hearing your more talkative team members go on and on. They are supposed to help your team learn how to nimbly respond to failure and empower you to change the things that are not working for you. However, older management styles have helped us learn and perfect the arts of finger-pointing, competition, and siloism as methods of achieving success in the workplace. This talk is for anyone who participates in retrospectives, doesn2019t always feel they are useful, and wants to learn a better way to accomplish the intended goal.